As spring nears and brighter, warmer days are right around the corner, we begin to see an influx of people who are enthusiastic about finding relationships and socializing again, as it happens every year around this time like clockwork. Typical signs of spring mean a larger crowd at the gym during my workout times, and a longer wait for the stair master (which I’d enjoyed having more to myself much of the winter). I notice girls walking around with cute spring coats, and it’s harder to get my same-day pedicure appointment now that open toed heels are about to make a comeback. I notice a spring in the men’s step walking by, because soon they will be able to enjoy women-watching again when the heavy winter coats come off and are replaced by the fitted, waist hugging fashions of warmer weather. Soon, bright color will invade the streets by the masses, along with livelier lounges after work, and the longer evenings in store for us as we move towards a brand new season!
So, for all of those singles gearing up for romance and perhaps an exciting new person to show up on the scene of your life in these coming months - Here are some ‘do it yourself’ tips you can apply to increase your chances dramatically of finding a great love romance this spring or summer.
Step # 1
Something that seems like a no-brainer, yet this first step is one that many still overlook. If you want to find love, you must get out of the house. Sorry, folks! You can’t lay on the couch every night and expect meet ’the one’ by staying home all of the time, all the while complaining about being single to your friends who you are texting during commercials of your favorite sitcom on Thursday nights. Unfortunately, you must leave your comfort zone and couch in order to make it happen for you. Take the initiative.
Step # 2
That being said, we all know we don’t have time to be party animals and go out every night in the hopes we meet someone great – and also wake up at 6am for work the next day (at least if we want to function). When you do go out to socialize, be strategic about where you place yourself. Put yourself in the environments where the type of people you want to meet are likely to be. You wouldn’t place yourself at a college sports bar if you prefer the early thirty-something, intellectual type who is into the arts, would you? Now, before I get angry emails from NY Jet fans, I love football and UFC myself. This isn’t to say that conservative intellectuals or art aficionados don’t go to sports bars of course. HOWEVER, the whole idea is to INCREASE your chances of running into the desired demographic of singles you’d want to date. If you have limited time, doesn’t it make sense instead to go to a chic new art exhibit or an upscale lounge vs. dollar beer college bars if you want to find someone new?
Also it may be good to mention, that while it does happen, you are not as likely to meet someone for a potentially serious relationship partying at a club – or at least not Monday through Thursday. Usually, eligible, serious-minded singles are most likely to be found at happy hour, on up until about 9pm or so during the workweek. Consider the areas where people are likely to go after work, near the business sections or areas that draw in a certain crowd, or locations appropriate for the age group of the singles you desire.
Step # 3
Now that you are out of the house and you know where you want to socialize, Step 3 is to look good while you are doing it! There is no getting around the fact that in order to find love, you must present yourself with your best foot forward at all times. You must put some effort into how you look. Yes, it can sound shallow, yet single people can not be lazy when it comes to their appearance (not that I recommend it for married or dating individuals either!). No one wants to see you in your sweats or frumpy t-shirt, girls and guys. And believe it or not, when you put some effort into your appearance, you will also feel more confident about yourself. Even if it’s just to run an errand, pick up an item at the grocery store or walk your dog; if you are single, seize every opportunity. Look your best, because you could meet a potential Mr./Mrs. Right anywhere and at any time.
Step # 4
So you are out, in the perfect setting and looking HOT! Now, you just need to be aware of the signals you are sending people. Be conscious of your body language. Some people do not realize that their body language is not inviting or sends people mixed messages… and then they wonder why they are at the bar not meeting anyone! SMILE. Make eye contact with someone you are interested in and count to three before you look away, even if it feels uncomfortable for you. You have to put the signal out there that you are friendly, available and approachable. Be aware of how you are coming across to others by the way you are standing, your facial expressions and your overall body language. If it’s not what you want the message to be, take note of it, change and readjust. It’s as easy and simple as that. You will see the difference, I promise!
Happy Dating to you all, Love is in the air!
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